Someone else’s opinion of you is none of your business. Unless you pay good money for a good therapist or have been reading Girl, Wash Your Face by Rachel Hollis; this concept may be new to you. I come from a long line of people-pleasers and I have to say this one sentence gives me the power to BE MYSELF! So let me say it again, “Someone Else’s Opinion of me is none of my business!”
This post isn’t necessarily a review. But I cannot go on without saying how much I identify with Rachel Hollis. It’s like she wrote the book for me and knows EXACTLY how to use her words and experiences to touch the very fiber of my soul. Yea, that might be over-dramatic, but ever time I listen to her book on Audible, I’m like a deer in headlights. Since I’m a visual learner, I’m ordering her book so I can read her words with my two eyes and soak in her wisdom. Get your copy here!
What This Means For Me
Rachel makes the connection of “Someone Else’s Option of You…” with creating things. Essentially, do it because you cannot NOT do it. But this hits me even deeper! As I go through my day, I hear constant negativity. Mostly, it’s just what other people have said to me, but on repeat in my head. Or this feeling that people don’t respect or like me and I “diagnose” why that is. But this kind of thought pattern has GOT. TO. STOP! In order for me to be the best version of myself, I have got to stop letting what other people think of me dictate what I do or how I value myself. For instance, not doing something because of fear of what others will think of me. Not drinking coffee the way I LIKE to drink coffee because someone criticized me for not really liking straight black coffee. Or, how about not getting better at something because “I’ll never be good at it”?
I’m started blogging because I wanted to and have fun with it. But after receiving criticism regarding my writing, I could stop. But I started this journey because I wanted to inspire! So, I may struggle writing, but it doesn’t mean I can’t learn and get better. After all, blogging is my outlet to express opinions, things I’m learning and create something.
I remember what it’s like to struggle physically and the deep emotional spiral I went down. To want nothing but little humans to love and enjoy. I knew that God made me to reproduce and that our broken world was a result of my infertility. I chose to go against main stream medical ideology because our bodies have an amazing ability to heal itself when given a chance, time, and proper nutrition. After experiencing the healing and desires of my heart, I could not, not share about holistic health. And that’s why I’m offering Plexus! Supplements that have changed people’s lives for the better!
Yes, Network Marketing has such a bad rep. Some people say they don’t like it because it “uses people’s friendships”, that you’ll be the “annoying person on facebook”, or even getting in loads of debt because of the products they had to pre-buy. If I let those fears rule me, not only will I not be able to help people achieve their health goals. I also won’t achieve another goal I have, which is be home with my kids and forever be chained to my 8-5 desk job. Network marketing is another challenge for me, but I’m not going to let that stop me. I’m not going to let the fear of being “that annoying person” stop me. Oh, and if anyone is wondering, I don’t want or need to keep inventory.
I couldn’t even begin to count how much time I’ve wasted wondering the following:
- WHY I didn’t feel included.
- WHY I didn’t fit in.
- WHY that person doesn’t talk to me unless we’re one-on-one.
- WHY I’ve been replaced by someone else.
- WHY people don’t take me serious or freakin’ respect me.
- WHY people don’t listen to me.
Yes, relationships are hard for me. I have always felt excluded since growing up in a private school to even now. But WHY does it have to me about me? It’s not! Just love people the best way how and leave everything else up to our maker. If I can’t be myself around them, then who am I? Who am I trying to be? And why is their approval of me so important? Their opinion of me is REALLY, NONE of my business.
These WHYs are shifting the spotlight to myself, which is selfish. If robs me from being myself and confident in WHO my maker has made me to be. It robs me of time & energy that is better spent doing something else. Less thinking, more loving wins!
Please, don’t think I’m saying, “don’t solicit feedback” or “listen to anything negative about yourself”. In a constructive way criticism helps us grow and become a better person. I do encourage you to grow by listening to podcasts, talking to a therapist, and don’t back down to things because it’s a challenge. Growing can and is painful. But if all I’m concerned about what other people think of me, I will never flourish.